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Our beloved cat, Dusty, had to be put to sleep yesterday. He was the most even-tempered, intelligent cat. It pains my heart and the tears have not stoppe flowing for this 17-year member of our family.
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Pets how do you handle their dying?

posted at 7/10/2011 6:35 AM EDT
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Our beloved cat, Dusty, had to be put to sleep yesterday. He was the most even-tempered, intelligent cat. It pains my heart and the tears have not stoppe flowing for this 17-year member of our family.

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posted at 7/10/2011 7:32 AM EDT
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Angela, I am so very sorry for your loss.  To those of us for whom our pets are truly a member of the family, the loss is similar to that of losing a loved human, and we grieve in a similar manner.  Allow yourself time - don't feel that you have to stop feeling the way you do just because he was "just a cat."  And picture him, if you can, at the "Rainbow Bridge" -  meeting new friends, playing like a kitten again - and waiting for you to join him again some day!

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posted at 7/10/2011 8:09 AM EDT
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Our beloved cat, Dusty, had to be put to sleep yesterday. He was the most even-tempered, intelligent cat. It pains my heart and the tears have not stoppe flowing for this 17-year member of our family.
Posted by Angela F


Oh Angela my heart goes out to you.It will take some time to grieve,as you said Dusty was a family member.I have had to say goodbye to many of our pets,your grief will someday be replaced with wonderful memories. This year I had to say goodbye to Rocky he was fifteen and the year before Ditto who was fifteen and Kelly who was seventeen.I have two new babies Romeo and Juliet and I love watching them grow just like the others.Angela,take your time and if in the future you want to adopt another do so,there are so many incredible animals just waiting for a caring person like yourself to come home with.Each and everyone are unique in their own way. Again my heart goes out to you,take care and God Bless!

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posted at 7/10/2011 8:54 AM EDT
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I am so sorry to hear about your loss of Dusty; it saddens my heart to hear this!  It is very hard because they are family and like your child; Erica D said it beautifully! 

Take Care and God Bless!

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posted at 7/10/2011 9:25 AM EDT
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There are all sorts of poems that address this but when it comes right down to it it is just like the loss of a family member.  No poem will take the sting and pain out of the loss.
Just remember is that you gave your kitty a loving home, a long life and you made the most loving decision you possibly could have made.  One of the hardest choices but the most loving choice.
My thoughts are with you and I will go give my "critters" a pet and a treat and tell them I love them in memory of Dusty.

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posted at 7/10/2011 9:26 AM EDT
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Oh Angela - I'm sorry this has happened.  (((Angela))) 

Years ago when I lost my precious cat , "Grace, a friend send me this and I've kept it close.

"We who choose to surround ourselves with lives even more temporary than
our own live within a fragile circle,  easily and often breached.
Unable to accept its awful gaps, we still would live no other way.
We cherish memory as the only certain immortality, never fully understanding
the necessary plan ......."

"the Once Again Prince" Irving Townsend

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posted at 7/10/2011 11:35 PM EDT
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Angela:  I am so sorry to hear of your loss.  You will be in my prayers.

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posted at 7/11/2011 6:40 AM EDT
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To all of you wonderful VBB friends,
Your wonderful comments are like a balm to my soul. Yes, I am grieving and don't know where all the tears are coming from. There seem to be a hole, where Dusty once was. If he wasn't in so much pain and looking so frightened, I would have kept him with me, but I just couldn't bear watching his pain. I had hoped that he would just go in his sleep, but this was not to be. I was with him at the last, and kissed him goodbye but...God Bless all of you for your wonderful compassion and understanding.

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posted at 7/11/2011 8:52 AM EDT
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Angela,

I am so sorry for your loss.  I truly understand your pain.  A few years ago, I lost my cat, Barney.  I got him when he was a kitten and had him for over 17 years.  He was my "baby" and followed me around everywhere in the house and would jump in my lap every time I sat down.  It gets easier, but I still miss him and think about him.  Believe me, my thoughts are with you.

Debbie 

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posted at 7/11/2011 5:16 PM EDT
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Angela,  My thought and prayers are with you.  We have lost 3 cats in the past
5 years. A 16 yr., 13 yr. and a 12 yr old. They were truly family members.  In time,
it gets easier, but you never forget. We have many pictures of our cats and we
have them out right along with the grandkids. They are family!!!!!

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posted at 7/13/2011 6:34 AM EDT
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There are all sorts of poems that address this but when it comes right down to it it is just like the loss of a family member.  No poem will take the sting and pain out of the loss. Just remember is that you gave your kitty a loving home, a long life and you made the most loving decision you possibly could have made.  One of the hardest choices but the most loving choice. My thoughts are with you and I will go give my "critters" a pet and a treat and tell them I love them in memory of Dusty.
Posted by nikki p


Niki,
I am sure that Dusty would be very pleased with your thought and I know that your "critters" will really love the treats. The pain of loss is a little easier, but the tears come on occation. Thanks for your thoughts, Angela

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posted at 7/13/2011 6:36 AM EDT
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Oh Angela - I'm sorry this has happened.  (((Angela)))  Years ago when I lost my precious cat , "Grace, a friend send me this and I've kept it close. "We who choose to surround ourselves with lives even more temporary than our own live within a fragile circle,  easily and often breached. Unable to accept its awful gaps, we still would live no other way. We cherish memory as the only certain immortality, never fully understanding the necessary plan ......." "the Once Again Prince" Irving Townsend
Posted by Nancy G


Nancy,
Thank you for your thoughts and the beautiful quote. The pain is easing, but Dusty will never be far from my heart. Thanks, Angela

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posted at 7/13/2011 6:37 AM EDT
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Angela, I am so sorry for your loss.  I truly understand your pain.  A few years ago, I lost my cat, Barney.  I got him when he was a kitten and had him for over 17 years.  He was my "baby" and followed me around everywhere in the house and would jump in my lap every time I sat down.  It gets easier, but I still miss him and think about him.  Believe me, my thoughts are with you. Debbie 
Posted by debbie b


Debbie,
Thanks for sharing your loss. Let us hope that Barney and Dusty are enjoying each others company and we will meet up with them once again some day. Thanks again, Angela

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posted at 7/13/2011 6:39 AM EDT
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Angela,  My thought and prayers are with you.  We have lost 3 cats in the past 5 years. A 16 yr., 13 yr. and a 12 yr old. They were truly family members.  In time, it gets easier, but you never forget. We have many pictures of our cats and we have them out right along with the grandkids. They are family!!!!!
Posted by Carol P


Carol,
It is amazing how many of us have special pets. The hole left by their going is difficult. Thanks, Angela

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posted at 7/13/2011 6:40 AM EDT
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Angela, I am so very sorry for your loss.  To those of us for whom our pets are truly a member of the family, the loss is similar to that of losing a loved human, and we grieve in a similar manner.  Allow yourself time - don't feel that you have to stop feeling the way you do just because he was "just a cat."  And picture him, if you can, at the "Rainbow Bridge" -  meeting new friends, playing like a kitten again - and waiting for you to join him again some day!
Posted by Erica D


Erica,
The image of the "Rainbow Bridge" really helped. Thanks, Angela

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posted at 7/13/2011 10:11 AM EDT
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Ihad to pet my cats to sleep because they where sick with cancer and it was their time to go.

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posted at 7/14/2011 6:41 AM EDT
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Ihad to pet my cats to sleep because they where sick with cancer and it was their time to go.
Posted by Maryann O


Maryann,
It is so hard to part with our animals. They give us so much joy, but preventing them from further pain is something we can do for them. They give us so many years of pleasure and really are part of our family.

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posted at 7/14/2011 7:37 PM EDT
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Angela, I am so sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is to lose a beloved pet.  Years ago we lost our old (18 years) orange tabby that my daughter had named "Buttercup" (wonderful name for a male cat).  We also lost several years later our dog "Willy"  who was also 18 years old.  We haven't adopted another animal because we tend to travel a lot and hate to board the animals while we are gone.  However, Our granddaughter works regularly at the Animal Rescue Foundation started by Tony La Russa when he was manager of the Oakland "A's" Baseball team.  She has lots of kitties that need adopting, and she regularly puts their pictures on Facebook.  There is another kitty that needs you, and would love to become a member of your family!!!

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posted at 7/16/2011 6:37 AM EDT
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Angela, I am so sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is to lose a beloved pet.  Years ago we lost our old (18 years) orange tabby that my daughter had named "Buttercup" (wonderful name for a male cat).  We also lost several years later our dog "Willy"  who was also 18 years old.  We haven't adopted another animal because we tend to travel a lot and hate to board the animals while we are gone.  However, Our granddaughter works regularly at the Animal Rescue Foundation started by Tony La Russa when he was manager of the Oakland "A's" Baseball team.  She has lots of kitties that need adopting, and she regularly puts their pictures on Facebook.  There is another kitty that needs you, and would love to become a member of your family!!!
Posted by Barbara B


Barbara,
I am feeling very ambiguous about getting another pet although my husband wants to do it. I find that the pain of loss is so great. You nuture them for so long and they just love you unconditionally that the parting is hard. Most of the people that I talk to say the gift the animal/family member gives is worth the pain of loss. Still thinking about it.

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posted at 7/16/2011 7:59 AM EDT
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Angela, at the shelter, we tell people who want to adopt immediately following the death of a beloved pet to take their time.  What tends to happen is that they look for an animal who looks just like the pet who was lost, and then when they get it home, they expect it to act exactly like the old pet.  Not gonna happen, and often they will return the cat or dog when it doesn't live up to expectations.  Take it slow; you will eventually get to the point where you don't always see Dusty out of the corner of your eye in his favorite spots...(at least that happens to me when I lose of my my furbabies...) and if you do choose to give a new kitty a life with you, don't look at is as replacement, but as a new addition to your family.  Gee, that sounds like I'm lecturing.  Sorry!  Erica
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