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GRANA  here; I have never thought of myself as a" Women's libber type; but theterm " housewife" really torques my  gears I am poudofhaving  been a wife; mom & homemaker  for m
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HOUSEWIFE OR HOMEMAKER Which are you?

posted at 2/13/2012 11:10 PM EST
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GRANA  here;
I have never thought of myself as a" Women's libber type; but theterm " housewife" really torques my  gearsYell
I am poudofhaving  been a wife; mom & homemaker  for mostofourmarriage.When theeconomyturnedbadinthe60's& hubby'sjob ( spaceprogram technician; I got ajobinretailing& helpd to pay the bills, whilehubby tokcareoftehomefront.Asoonashewasrehired,I gavenoticeonmyjob & wentback to myroleashomemaker& Mom.
when theschoolneed volunteer clasMothers;I wasther; when cub scoutleader wereneed,I wasthere; when the scouttroop needed a treasurer,fundraisingchairan& activitieschairman,Once again,I was there.   When neighbors needed help inplanningBirthday partiesfor their kids,I was there.
I didall this as part of being a Mom & homemaker.  I  was never married to my house; making a home  & fmily was always my priority.
I haveknown women whoselifes revolvedarouddecoratingtheir huse( always painting rooms, redocorating( buyingdrapes & furniture; makingbeautiful floer arrangements; these women seemed to be  married 7 devoted to to their house( the building itself, rather than  rather than to thepeo ple who lived inside.  All their thoughts & energy weredevotede to the  stucture
Thatwastheirchoice&their homeswerelovely.Their kids  cameto my houseforadfterschoolsnacks; homework help & thingstheir own Momshad no time or interest in.
These days Mothersoften work full time ; outofchoioceor necesity.They have no time for themselves or their families; Ihear themcomplainingabout their being overworked w/o doing anythingfor their families.If they haveto work to make ends meet, that is a sad reality forthem7theirfamilies....I figured itout, yearss ago  that myat  home time actually  actually contribute asmuchfinancially as ifI workedamiimu wage job outside thehome, asso manywomen do!we don't needthat2nd orthirdcar,I don't haveto get myhair7 nailsdoneweekly,I don't have to pay premium prices for meals prepared by someon else I shop economicallly for food & other household needs.I  havemade& repaired clothing for my family instead of having to buy new clothing that would be outgrown too soon anyway.I providesd morenutritous healthier & tastier meals by coking the  fodmyself.
If a woma has a career requiring pecial education& training ( doctor,lawyer, nurse, engineer, & Prefers that to being a homemaker,I say
" GOOD for HER!"
Btthereare many of us who   arejust asprofessional & productive stayig athome tendingto ourfamilies.
To me it is & should be the choice of the the woman & her family
if she is to contribute inside her home  or outside of it. I chose early on to be a HOMEMAKER. & havealwaysbeen greatfrul tathubbyearned enoug money so that I could do just that. Iworkedharder @ homethan at any ofmyjobs in theoutsideworld.Myhusbandalwaysa acknowledged thatI worked2 home& wasa  valuablecontributorto ourt family. WhenI becamedisabled; he was often told that " She had no  carreer anyway,so it'sno BIG LOSS"Iheard hubby proudly state thatmywife  was the  MOM  that all kids need& &7 deervee. Shenowcannot function n that capacity; it isaVERY BIG DEAL!
Wewereboth latchkey kids ; perhaps hat s hy we understand the value of an @ home MOM
 as we do.
There are women out there that manage to do it all( career& homemaker/Mom)  I salute them & am in awe; wish them wellCoolKiss.

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posted at 2/13/2012 11:40 PM EST
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Oh I've done it all wife,mom,worked outside the home,chauffer, always cooked from scratch,total caregiver to my chronically ill mother for 12 years the first year and the last two years total care.Some times all the above at once.I don't know how I made it through, however ten months after my mom passed away my health began to decline.I took real good care of everyone but myself.I now take better care of myself but I still make sure my family is taken care of also.I would do it all again.

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posted at 2/14/2012 1:02 AM EST
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I have done it all as well! I was able to stay home with my oldest son for his first year, but that meant making my own baby food, using and laundering cloth diapers, and doing some typing and light bookkeeping part-time from my home. After that first year, I had to return to working away from home. However, our children were our priority and our at-home time revolved around them. I cooked all our meals, rarely using convenience foods. We had homemade bread, I canned fruit, made my own fruit roll-ups for the boys, etc. There was never any time for me, but I wouldn't change that for anything. I took early retirement 2 years ago, and now claim some me-time, so it's worked out pretty well. Every Mother's Day both my sons acknowledge how special their youth was.Laughing That's all I need!

Re: HOUSEWIFE OR HOMEMAKER Which are you?

posted at 2/14/2012 1:36 AM EST
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It depends  on how I feel or what I have done  at the time

Re: HOUSEWIFE OR HOMEMAKER Which are you?

posted at 2/14/2012 7:44 AM EST
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GRANA  here;
 I too "DID IT ALL" l: made my own  frozen yogurt ( starting with milkk bought atthestore[ not taken from a cow: />)] I  msde demy own pizzas, from scratch; pickles, preserved fruits, I cu up whole chickens for the freezer ($.39# vs $1.29#.I enjoyed the  challenge oflearning  new  skills &  the sense of accoplishment I felt t w/ each SUCCESS!
All The volunteer jobs( scout leader& committee person, classroom Mom;  church  school teacher were done becasuse I could do  it & was needed; If I had it to do over again, I would take  better care of myself along  theway.And I would have taken a different road home the night I was rear- ended by an uninsured  drunk driver  on the way home from a sales mtg.
Perhaps, I then would be able, in  my golden retirement years to walk  daily w/my usband instead of  being confined to a wheelchair  or mybeIwouldhavebeen kiled in someotherwayorhurt someone else( driving on an unfamiliar road Undecided
We each make  ( at the time)  what seems to us to  the best choice(s); based  on what we  then know; .....  NO REGRETS LATER IN LIFE THAT WAY!.Innocent
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woulda coulda shoulda" thinking  is a waste of time   & accomplishes nothing worthwhile!

Re: HOUSEWIFE OR HOMEMAKER Which are you?

posted at 2/14/2012 8:09 AM EST
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IH GALE;  i APOLOGIZE  for not EmbarassedHonoring  or even mentioning  thosecaregivers such as yourselff......... A  VERY IMPORTANT JOB..........e to Re: HOUSEWIFE OR HOMEMAKER Which are you?:
Oh I've done it all wife,mom,worked outside the home,chauffer, always cooked from scratch,total caregiver to my chronically ill mother for 12 years the first year and the last two years total care.Some times all the above at once.I don't know how I made it through, however ten months after my mom passed away my health began to decline.I took real good care of everyone but myself.I now take better care of myself but I still make sure my family is taken care of also.I would do it all again.
Posted by gale g

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posted at 2/14/2012 9:02 AM EST
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I prefer homemaker, but some days, I just feel like SLAVE is my title. 

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posted at 2/14/2012 9:45 AM EST
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Hi DEBBIE B;
We've all had days like that; I prefer to  call it voluntary servitude since I signed on for the job...give yourself an " atta girl" you deserve it!; even if no one else realizes it (yet)!





 Which are you?:
I prefer homemaker, but some days, I just feel like SLAVE is my title. 
Posted by debbie b

Re: HOUSEWIFE OR HOMEMAKER Which are you?

posted at 2/14/2012 11:11 AM EST
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i had to work but my daughter was in school. then my boys came i worked but was home when they got out of school so i was everything and there wasnt womans lib ? we did what we had to eat and pay bills

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posted at 2/14/2012 11:13 AM EST
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I worked but I am retired now

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posted at 2/14/2012 11:33 AM EST
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In Response to Re: HOUSEWIFE OR HOMEMAKER Which are you?:
GRANA   here;  I too "DID IT ALL" l: made my own  frozen yogurt ( starting with milkk bought atthestore[ not taken from a cow: />)] I  msde demy own pizzas, from scratch; pickles, preserved fruits, I cu up whole chickens for the freezer ($.39# vs $1.29#.I enjoyed the  challenge oflearning  new  skills &  the sense of accoplishment I felt t w/ each SUCCESS! All The volunteer jobs( scout leader& committee person, classroom Mom;  church  school teacher were done becasuse I could do  it & was needed; If I had it to do over again, I would take  better care of myself along  theway.And I would have taken a different road home the night I was rear- ended by an uninsured  drunk driver  on the way home from a sales mtg. Perhaps, I then would be able, in  my golden retirement years to walk  daily w/my usband instead of  being confined to a wheelchair  or mybeIwouldhavebeen kiled in someotherwayorhurt someone else( driving on an unfamiliar road  We each make  ( at the time)  what seems to us to  the best choice(s); based  on what we  then know; .....  NO REGRETS LATER IN LIFE THAT WAY!. " woulda coulda shoulda" thinking  is a waste of time   & accomplishes nothing worthwhile!
Posted by ann h


Have been retired for nearly 15 years; but I have yet to see the "Golden Retirement Years".  I don't think there is such a thing!  It seems that retirement years consists of medical appointments and short visits to the grocery store.

Re: HOUSEWIFE OR HOMEMAKER Which are you?

posted at 2/14/2012 11:44 AM EST
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I am a nurse amd now I am retred but still do a lot of volunteer work.
I worked a lot at night so I could be home when the kids got home from
school.

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posted at 2/14/2012 12:06 PM EST
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I'm a domestic goddess...I take care of the castle and I  dont work..

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posted at 2/14/2012 1:06 PM EST
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I'm a domestic goddess...I take care of the castle and I  dont work..
Posted by CONNIE C


You don't work?  if you take care of the castle, that is usually work, not lazing around eating bon-bons all day.

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posted at 2/14/2012 1:14 PM EST
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In Response to Re: HOUSEWIFE OR HOMEMAKER Which are you?:
Oh I've done it all wife,mom,worked outside the home,chauffer, always cooked from scratch,total caregiver to my chronically ill mother for 12 years the first year and the last two years total care.Some times all the above at once.I don't know how I made it through, however ten months after my mom passed away my health began to decline.I took real good care of everyone but myself.I now take better care of myself but I still make sure my family is taken care of also.I would do it all again.
Posted by gale g


I can relate to this..  I tried to be :marvelous Mother, dutiful Daughter and wonderful wife all at the same time.  There were times when I felt I wasn't keeping up with any of these.  I too did not put myself in the picture except as it applied to the above.  As I look at my sons and their families, I feel I did mostly O.K. and my hubby and I will celebrate 47 years this fall and my mom was able to stay with us and not need outside care.  So I guess I can say that part turned out well.  It was just my own health that suffered.

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posted at 2/15/2012 12:18 PM EST
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Connie, I LOVE the title domestic goddess.  I'll have to start using that from now on.


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I'm a domestic goddess...I take care of the castle and I  dont work..
Posted by CONNIE C

Re: HOUSEWIFE OR HOMEMAKER Which are you?

posted at 2/15/2012 4:39 PM EST
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Ann, I agree with everything you said.  In fact in your survey I could have checked several of the boxes.  I am a college graduate with graduate work, and I taught high school for a year, but then came my daughter, and later my son.  I stayed home and made sure they were raised with both love and discipline.  My husband worked for the government for 35 years.  We didn't always have "everything", but we made do and both of us volunteered both for the kids activities and also for our community.  I feel I am definitely a "Homemaker".  I am pleased to see that both my daughter and daughter in law have carried on that tradition.

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posted at 2/15/2012 11:36 PM EST
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I've done it all too.  I worked before my sons were born, stayed home with them when they were little, then worked at the Library doing story hour while they were in school and done to pick them up, always involved in their school as class mother, etc., As they grew, I went back to work, took care of the house, Volunteered with the band when they were in high school, volunteered at the Church and still do.  We also, did not have everything, but made do and our sons knew they were loved and still do.  We also helped with my sister-in-law who is paraplegic.  I also did and still do the holidays (but now my sons help & Christmas they did it all) because now I have health problems.
I am definitely a homemaker.

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posted at 2/16/2012 12:24 AM EST
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I have called myself a domestic engineer for years. Sealed

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posted at 2/16/2012 7:43 AM EST
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I hve used Fran's term Domestic Enginner for years.  I also like the term Domestic Goddess.

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