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HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY TO ALLOF YOU: MARRIED OR SINGLE; ROMANCE IS FOR ALL OF US MARRIED ORSINGLE; HOW WILYOU MAKE IT SPECIAL?
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GRANA here;  We've been married over 50 years& every yearsincewe met hubby plans something special  to do; Mostyears wego outto dinner, sitdown w/realplates& cloth hapkins; NO TAKE
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HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY TO ALLOF YOU: MARRIED OR SINGLE; ROMANCE IS FOR ALL OF US MARRIED ORSINGLE; HOW WILYOU MAKE IT SPECIAL?

posted at 2/6/2013 11:44 PM EST
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GRANA here;


 We've been married over 50 years& every yearsincewe met hubby plans something special  to do;
Mostyears wego outto dinner, sitdown w/realplates& cloth hapkins; NO TAKE OUT that day!!!!!
BeforI hadaccumuate 51 years of  gifted Jewelry Ioften got a new charm for mybracet or  A PRETY PAIR of EARRINGS
 I used to buyhim silk necties before He retired.
Now we  sleep late take bubble baths ke bubble baths& go outfor  pleasant meal w/ a salad bar  fave foodsfor both of us:
SALAD BAR
a variety of International foods, appetizers&   special desserts I used toget a haircut butI'm growing my lengh out   & don't  really want a haircut.
Smetimes hubby buys me"TOYS:
a rice cooker, amicrowve,a food proceor an immersion blender..It's sonicewhen appliances have features that make mmaking meals ls, ding chores easier!This year we replaced my  23 yo   deceased microwave  oven w/one that  has keys to prepare automatically many dishes w/o me having to set time or temperature;it's all done automatically including a one minute  warning before the dish is done; giving me time to  go  the kitchen  to do  the next step: sti/ remove ? It has a turn table so I can stay comfy in my recliner instead of going into the kitchen to rotate the casserole or dsh...The best part is that the inside has no corners making it much easier to clean off splatters w/ corners Hubby shopped online & found theBEST chosen model  nearby  for about  half pice.....He enjoys using it too especially  brewing tea  &   reheating pizza slices(reruns) he finds that reheating soup rruns is fun too. And since he now has taken over the reheating I have even less to do & more  time to recuperate  Wink





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posted at 2/7/2013 1:31 AM EST
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 Hi Ann. I don't believe in romance anymore. That got sucked out of me in my last two relationships & that was 10 years ago. It's nice that you & your hubby have been together for so long! Congrats to you! :>) I had always wished to be that lucky. May you have many more Valentines' together. :)

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posted at 2/7/2013 8:11 AM EST
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My husband is battling chronic lymphocytic leukenia again.  It is not curable but is treatable so all our days are special.

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posted at 2/7/2013 11:26 AM EST
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Well, after 55 years, just sitting around sounds mighty good.  The gifts stopped somewhere around the sixth year....first baby....who got all the attention from both of us.  Both "kids" are grown and off on their own.  Just the two of us.....actually, it's quite nice!

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posted at 2/7/2013 11:57 AM EST
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We have been married for 44 years so we are just happy to be able to celebrate together.

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posted at 2/7/2013 1:01 PM EST
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we have been married  50  and we just go to a close place to eat. i never  thought i would be married that long. today s couples cant stay together long guess  it sjust easy to split up my one son was married twice just 8 years both times .   happy valentines day to everyone     

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posted at 2/7/2013 2:29 PM EST
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a good book is as close as i get to romance these days.
actully there are many more solos than couples      so this is the  'plight'      for most
glad for you tho

like vicki  i decided a long time ago that i would rather be happy on my own  than be miserable in a relationship just to have one

all my   'grands'    have reached an age now that  they are searching out their own

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posted at 2/7/2013 3:33 PM EST
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After 32 years with my sweetie, 27 of those married, this will be the first apart.  Not the first that he has not known that it is Valentines day though. I must admit most of the Valentines days were "celebrated" the day after to take advantage of lower prices and great deals.  Never did like fighting the people that decided that Valentines day was the only day to go out to eat.  So we would go out on the weekend and have a quiet dinner.

I will bring him a special treat and a card.  
It is another day for me, as are most other "special" days.  

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posted at 2/7/2013 4:41 PM EST
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We have been married 51 years and a card and dinner out is all we do He gets me flowers once in a while.

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posted at 2/7/2013 7:35 PM EST
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After 54 years, I get a lovely card and maybe dinner out, but I don't really care about going out.  Every day is a gift and so we try to treasure every day that we have.  We never know what a day will bring.

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posted at 2/7/2013 11:16 PM EST
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Happy Valentine's Day to everyone! We've been married 41 years, but have never bought gifts for each other just because there's a holiday. We saw too many relationships break up because one spent more than the other on this gift or that, etc. We do buy things as the need arises and decide what occasion it's for at the time. We exchange Hallmark cards and once in awhile hubby surprises me with fresh flowers. And I usually bake something for our sweet tooth!

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posted at 2/8/2013 12:06 AM EST
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Happy Valentine's Day to all VBB's. We always go to the Riverside Fair and Date
Festival in Indio, CA for the weekend. It is alway around Valentine's Day. We go
in the motorhome and have a really good time. I will also be doing some baking
for hubby. I will be making him a pizza size choc. chip cookie with the Nestle
Valentine Chips and also adding some of the dark choc. chips in too. I also will be
making some brownie's with white choc. with raspberries frosting and topping it
with Nestle's Valentine Chips.

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posted at 2/8/2013 1:19 AM EST
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GRANA here;
Hi VICKI S;
Both of had  parents who were miserable examples of married life My parents divorced when I was  a baby.My Dad's next marriage also failed as did myGrandmothers. failed, so did my Mom's after I was married myself  Hubby's mom believed  that we had to SUFFER" & had no right to expect happiness in life.After hubby proposed I sked him to be patient 'cuz I didn't hink eitherof us were prepared to  bring joy to the other  &   I loved him too much to  see him unhappy.
He asked me who else could understand us, why we were so nuts Over the years it was not always GREAT but we were both  determined to make it work.When I was injured by a dunk driver, hubby stayed w/me helping me recover as well as I  could.Before I could cook  again or do household  chore he took over  despite traveling 2 hrs each day to work; when I tried cooking again, he always complimented me on my resuts.
He helped me do chores so I could succeed &   not  tire out too much.
He's always been my best friend & he says I am his .Too many marry for the physical attraction & notb because cause they  realy ike&  love each other"friends  w/ benefits is actually the best part art of ur marriage, notjust an empty superficial lustful reationship We read books ogether, laugh at our foibles & help each terthrough trials & troubles
He encouraged me to teach cooking again, this time to the mentally  ill & to patients in in a drug rehab   program as a volunteer, even though the bus fare was a hardship at that t time  since he was laid off after his emloyer of 26 years soldte the usiness  &  the new boss had no patience to  deal w/ a deaf man. ( though it made his qualityof life much less; he cann otenjoy the spoken word( us talking & dialog in movies, TV & radio h e still fnds things to do that we can enjoy together .
Whn he had his heart attack I visited im daily by paratransit  ( an hou eachwas tothe hospital only  3 miles away.I worked w/ our Maor to improve the service for all rider;He ageed that riders(all olderor  disabled in some way should notbe forced to ride for so longo ften passing rightbytheir destinations to pick up or drop off  bratty kids in nearby owns. The routes were changed & the abusive  kids los their chance to ride We were the first city  our f ursize to eetall therequirements of the
A mericans w/D isibiites A ct ( the  theADA00 , receiving a grant to help us improve services  .
some High school passengers( notdisabled were bllying7  abusing otherstudents; a committee of peersws formed7 wroteuptheir own rues & conseqnced making bus ridershipb brtter  for allevenRidership w opened to community colge students ata dscnted rate making i possible  for more students toattend w/oteneed fa car.On air cmpromised days, al residents cold ride FRE to allow forthe air qualitytoipove.Jubywasso pud of my work he bragged aboutitat his nextjob; I had ogowith him to be put on display The gimp that getst hings done! Hubby's new bs broughtme ho t tea to show his admiration. Embarassed

y year 'round
When he became a vegetarian,I learned to prepare those meals I stopped eating meat too & Tv& radio he refused to suffer & still takes me  places thatI can  enjoy, though he could not.Wen he was diagnosed as  diabetic I learned toprepare foods he loved in a way to help cntrol his glucose.... 
W/both o us  having medical  & emotional issues we both stil remember our commitment to each other's happiness &  do what we can to help achieve it.. with both  of us having com so close to death a few times, it's easy to remember how much the loss of the other would devastate us...That  keeps us keeping our weding day pomise to love & cherish the other(tha includes striving to love protect& bring joy  joy to the other ahead of ourseles; If that is not reason for romance I don't know   what isSmileWhen you are angry at or disapointed in the otherher you might  think you want them out of your life.But when you see them in pain & almost lose them permantly, those tender feelings turn up. again. Kiss
Hubby likrs tosay" IDO'TGETMAD, I GET EVEN"  but that doesn'twork in marriages or families, Frown 




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posted at 2/8/2013 2:17 AM EST
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GRANA here;
HiVICKI S
My best female  friend was once married to a drunk Who did not work,She had 4 kids & worked 3 jobs to support the family He was abusive too When  we met 20 years ago she would watch my hubby & I  tease & mock fight..she then told me that she will never get married again & why.She said she  would if she could find a guy like I have that could give & take the way we do( so much fun) Laughing
Several yars later, she me a new guy who later  poposed  she asked my avice.Surprised.She had been keeping her teasing  nature  idden ed 'cuz being with him  was so nice my adviceSurprisedsince she has the same sense of humor as do I   was to suggest   she try it ut on him ,'cuz if he couldn't handle it he was not a suitable life partnerfor her.When she did his reaction was" why are youu angry at me? Did  I do something wrong, he didn't get  angry ttold her  he  wanted to learn n howto not make he ruunhappy They are now married nearly7 years, both reiredThey travel a lot ,& host her grand kids  & his kids often, & spend their days in the hot tub they built together, drinking the wine she makes & bottles herself ;
definitely FUN   & ROMANCE  THEREl
KissSmileSo keep your mind open  & don't ct  in in a way that is not you; find someone who apreciates just the way you are & vice versa

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GRANA here;
Hi  MARY ANN S;
S SORRY FORYOUR TRIALS & HOPE EACH & every  DAY FOR YOU    IS as special as itcan be  &  let's all agree that medical science  might just find a cure to help make your days as special as you are
Kiss

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My husband is battling chronic lymphocytic leukenia again.  It is not curable but is treatable so all our days are special.
Posted by Mary Ann S

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GRANA here; Hi VICKI S My best female  friend was once married to a drunk Who did not work,She had 4 kids & worked 3 jobs to support the family He was abusive too When  we met 20 years ago she would watch my hubby & I   tease & mock fight ..she then told me that she will never get married again & why.She said she  would if she could find a guy like I have that could give & take the way we do( so much fun ) Several yars later, she me a new guy who later  poposed  she asked my avice. .She had been keeping her teasing  nature  idden ed 'cuz being with him  was so nice my advice since she has the same sense of humor as do I   was to suggest   she try it ut on him ,'cuz if he couldn't handle it he was not a suitable life partnerfor her.When she did his reaction was" why are youu angry at me? Did  I do something wrong, he didn't get  angry ttold her  he  wanted to learn n howto not make he ruunhappy They are now married nearly7 years, both reiredThey travel a lot ,& host her grand kids  & his kids often, & spend their days in the hot tub they built together, drinking the wine she makes & bottles herself ; definitely FUN   & ROMANCE   THEREl So keep your mind open  & don't ct  in in a way that is not you; find someone who apreciates just the way you are & vice versa
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 Ann, I was 43 when I didn't believe in romance anymore for myself. I got tired of being hurt. When you open up & give your whole life to someone & they just tease you & throw away your feelings like yesterdays' mess it tends to wear on you. I got married at 18 and a couple of months later I was with my first daughter as I wanted to start my family young. My parents were older and they just weren't up to the energy that a kid has. When I got divorced 5 years later I had a pre-schooler & a premature baby of two months old. She was born two months early. Anyway, the thing is that I never could count on anyone for help including the father. Since then I had a relationship of 8 years and there too got let down. He didn't want to be with me after he found out about my diabetes. A life change and he couldn't stick around. I've had dates but I can't seem to find anyone that believes in "the forever." After awhile you learn to just stop looking. I just raised my two girls, went to school & got a job working at a hospital in physical therapy. I think that some people just aren't meant to be a couple for some reason. I'm 53 now and I just figure it's that way. Thank you for caring. :)

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Hi SARA S;
GRANA here;
For manyyears that was plentyfor us ;    now we are delighted to do moreto make our  times together more special  by haring exeriences together knowing that we d0 not have "forever" aahead  o f us as we once though[ in our youth].


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We have been married for 44 years so we are just happy to be able to celebrate together.
Posted by Sara S

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Hi GALE  G;
 GRANAhere; Yes making the effort to  go on w/o your dear one is a tribute to him Making the day specil for other loved ones is the best way to help yourself hrough this timeSmile
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Congrats to you Ann on 50 years.Unfortunatly this will be my first Valentines day without my one and only Valentine for the past 34 years.I'll still do something for the boys and my daughter in law.I have some heart shaped cake pans that I haven't packed yet so this may be an option if I'm up to baking  Or I could make some crepes.Aldi's has huge blackberries and that would be really good blackberry crepes with a big dollop of whipped cream.
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Ann, How wonderful that you and your husband managed to overcome many
hardships in your life and enjoy being together. I enjoy reading your menus
and all the treats you make for your husband. Congratulations on over 50 years
of marriage and I hope you have many more. Happy Valentine's Day.

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Hi NELLIE V;
GRANA here;I agree w/ both you& VICKI S  that it is better to be alone than to just "hook up"  w/ the wrong person just to not be  alone  is not a good thing. Finding a friend  &  companion is the best of  life .Denying oneselff that oportunity is a tragedy  in my  mind Cry
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